Custodianship and Parenthood
Monday, August 1st, 2011I’m not the greatest parent in the world. I’m not even the greatest parent among the parents that I know. And I’m saddened by the fact that I know people who would be better parents than me, if only they were able to have children of their own.
But I do make sure that I LIVE every moment, every hour and every day that I am privileged to spend with my children. By living, I mean full, undivided attention, on their terms and in a way that we can ALL grow and benefit from, regardless of how ordinary or exciting the time is.
This is sometimes challenging and tiring but never boring or frustrating because I go into this time naturally, without any preconceptions, barriers or thoughts about how I SHOULD behave or what other people might think. Sometimes it gets me (and them) into trouble. Being told off in Sainsbury’s for trolley racing springs to mind.
The reason for sharing this is to say that because I live and breathe the time with my kids, loads of good things happen.
1) There is real, deep mutual trust that allows all of us to be open with our thoughts and feelings. This makes dealing with some of the more tricky issues of parenting much, much simpler and with correspondingly better results.
2) All of us are content, happy and rewarded. We value the time, understand the boundaries but naturally and without fear, explore new things and experiences – we all get more out of the moments.
3) By always reminding myself that I am privileged, I recognise and respect what I have and am more committed and passionate about preserving and developing it. The more I put in, the more I get back because the kids sense the effort and the rewards too.
4) We are each, and collectively, setting up a very strong long-term future relationship – hopefully, sustained for life.
The point behind wearing my heart on my sleeve is to say that brands are like children (without the nappies). They are born, sometimes with difficulty, and after the initial celebratory euphoria, brand owners have to knuckle down to the business of nurturing (and responsibly growing) their charges in all the many and varied ways necessary for them to successfully reach maturity and positively contribute to the world.
Brands, like children, need to be LIVED with not DEALT with or tolerated. They need the same deep levels of commitment, passion, care, respect and understanding. They need protecting from harmful influences, but they also need help to find their own path. They benefit from a devotion of time and consistency of thought and input from everyone around them.
For MTD, the role of brand custodian, developer and champion is as rewarding in our professional world as parenthood is in our personal ones. We approach each in very similar ways and LIVE every moment spent with the brands that we are responsible for.
We do this because we know that we are privileged to have such wonderful and responsible jobs – ones that many people would wish to have for themselves. We also understand that the role of brand custodian can be very challenging and tiring, but that if the attitude is right, it should never be boring or frustrating.
Ultimately, if brand owners, custodians and managers live their brands constantly, believe in them passionately and engage with them naturally, everything else becomes easy. The work stops being hard work, starts to become fun and everyone who contributes begins to grow and benefit.
Finally, there are tons of books on parenting, loads of people keen to offer advice, anecdotes, evidence, rules, ‘best practice’, watch outs, horror stories and ways of achieving certain success. Parents are analysed, observed, bench marked, criticised but rarely praised. Some parents get so concerned about how to be a good parent that they stop being a good parent. They over complicate, compensate and even allow inertia to set in. In other words, lose their ability to be natural, keep things simple, enjoy themselves and reap the rewards.
It’s exactly the same for brands and brand custodians.
Neither team actually considered the needs or desires of the target audience. Considering that the majority of consumers who purchase cleaning products are female, neither product or campaign targeted females specifically. Alex’s Germinator was a very masculine looking product, and Chris’s Octi-kleen television advert was very old fashioned and focused on the man of the house relaxing while the wife cleans up with her eight hands.